WoW Blog Book Tour for Mari L McCarthy’s “Heal Yourself through Journaling Power

Here’s the review I promised you:

Ms. McCarthy’s website is:

Please make Ms. McCarthy feel welcome like you always do. Feel free to comment all you like and ask as many questions as you want.

See you tonight at 11pm on Stationhead for Eclectic Weekends.

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WOW (Women on Writing) Blog Book Tour for Mari L McCarthy’s “Heal Yourself through Journaling Power”

Hello Bookworms;

Here’s the first leg in my participation in WOW’s blog Book Tour for Mari L. McCarthy’s Heal Yourself through Journaling Power. In this week’s post I’m including a guest post on the subject of journaling power for emotional health and an interview with Ms. McCarthy.

Journaling for Emotional Health:

When you decide to be more attentive to your physical health, you usually know where to start. You may strive to eat more vegetables, go for morning walks or quit smoking. But what about when you want to care for your emotional health? What steps can you take to make it as much of a priority as your physical well-being? 

Journaling has a way of shining a light on your inner life. In the pages of your journal, you can safely express all of youremotions, fears and desires. Regular journaling will help you define what you are feeling and why, giving you insight into what is going well in your life and what you’d like to change. 

Try one of these journaling exercises to give your emotional health the attention it deserves. 

 1. Name That Emotion 

 Ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?” Can you identify your emotions – boredom, worry, frustration, happiness, enthusiasm? Notice and name your current feelings in your journal. Explore why you might be feeling a certain way and how your emotions are affecting your actions. This processhelps you build self-awareness, minimize the impact of negative emotions and make healthy changes. 

 2. Let It Out

 When you are feeling unpleasant emotions – anger, shame, sadness, envy – give them an outlet in your journal instead of bottling them up. Vent about whatever is bothering you, jotting down stream-of-consciousness thoughts until you feel you don’t have anything else to say. 

3. Gather Gratitude 

A funny thing happens when you practice focusing on the positive moments in your life: you notice more and more of them and encourage an attitude of gratitude. Positive psychology research shows that simply remembering and writing down three good things that happened to you in a day can give you a huge happiness boost over time. 

 Every day for at least a week, write a detailed description of three things that went well that day. Why do you think it happened? How did you feel at the time? How do you feel now, looking back on it? The items on your list can be as small as, “I sat in the sunshine during my lunch break,” or as big as, “I finished my last round of chemo today.” 

Incorporating journaling into your daily routine – even just a few minutes a day – can have a remarkable impact on your emotional health.

The Interview:

Q: What made you choose this subject matter?

My Journal prompted me in this direction. She’s my muse and mentor. We’ve been partners for 21+ years and she’s always sending me universal messages and one day the message, journaling power trilogy, appeared so I knew it was time to write and publish my journaling power experiences. With her help, I published the first book in the trilogy Journaling Power: How To Create The Happy, Healthy Life You Want To Live in 2016 which is an introduction to Journaling Power. It was my Journaling Journey story. I call it a self-help memoir as it contains lots of practical exercises for people to create and enhance their own life-changing journaling practice. The second book in the trilogy, Heal Your Self With Journaling Power, the book I just published, focuses on the Journaling Journeys of 10 other writers and how they use journaling to master life’s mental, physical, and spiritual challenges. My Journal and I have so far created a title for the third book in the trilogy Create Unconditional Self-Love – A Journaling Power Book which will be another self-help memoir about my journey from self-sabotage to self-love.

Q: What made you choose writing as a profession?

A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I majored in journalism looking for a practical major that would help me be a success in the real world. After a short stint as a weekly newspaper editor, I set off into the business world and then the only writing I did was business reports. A health challenge forced me off the road (I owned a management consulting firm traveling 24/7) and I took up journaling (Julia Cameron’s Morning Pages) for physical therapy purposes only since I’d lost most feeling on the right side of my body and needed to teach myself how to write with my left hand. But lo and behold, Journaling opened up many, many memories and I remembered how I loved words, writing essays and stories and I was back into the writing profession.

Q: Do you have any advice for future writers? Especially women?

Keep a Journal. Pen to Paper every day. That way, you’ll stay connected to your Muse, your Inner Writer, your True Self. Inner Critics hate it when we take care of ourselves first. So write, write, write in your Journal every day and you’ll never encounter page fright, writer’s block or other literary ailments.

Q: Use this space to give yourself a shameless plug about this work/any other works/your website(blog)?

I’m the Founder and Chief Empowerment Officer of, The Journaling Power Center. I mentor health conscious writers in using Journaling For The Health of It, also known as therapeutic journaling, to heal the issues in their tissues and grow and transform their life. We have tons of resources: complimentary ebooks, 375 unique and soul searching Journaling Power Prompts, a Journaling Power Journey Blog where other writers share their journaling experiences and AHA adventures, and a store with 20+ Journaling Power workbooks that cover life challenging topics such as Empower Your Self, Heal Your Life and Journal Magic For Writers.

Please come visit and please always #JustWriteON!

Here are the remaining dates for the tour:

As always, make Ms. McCarthy feel welcome feel free to post any questions you have in the comment section of this post. Next week I’m posting my review and all additional information about the program. Have a blessed day and enjoy 😉

Promo for Friday’s Blog Book Tour and My Radio Show Eclectic Weekends

Hello Bookworms;

Here’s a promotional video for Friday’s portion of WOW’s blog book tour. I made some changes in the order which I’ll explain in the clip. See y’all Friday!!!

WOW Blog Book Tour for Karen Brown Tyson

Hello Bookworms;

It’s time for another blog book tour from our friends at WOW (Women on Writing).

Today’s guest poster is Karen Brown Tyson, author of Time to Refresh: A 21- Day Devotional to Renew Your Mind After Being Laid Off, Fired or Sidelined.

I read some of it (I didn’t get a chance to read all 21 days but WILL be finishing it) and it’s very inspirational. It really makes you take time to pray, hear from God, and plan your next steps.

Today’s guest post is called “Balancing Career, Home, and Ministry “. Ms. Tyson will share he perspective on work/life balance and time management. I will also be publishing an interview with Ms Tyson on December 7th, so please come back to read and comment. Here’s the schedule for the remainder of the tour and as always, make Ms Tyson feel and feel free to ask her questions you like:

November 29th @ The Frugalista Mom

Visit Rozelyn’s blog where you can read her review of Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.


November 30th @ Amateur Twin Mom

Visit Jonelle’s blog to read what she has to say about Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.


December 3rd @ Beverley A Baird Blog

Visit Beverley’s blog where Karen Brown Tyson talks about how to improve your writing life.


December 5th @ Break Even Books

Stop by Erik’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about how to build your personal brand.


December 5th @  Jill Sheets Blog

Stop by Jill’s blog today where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about how to improve your writing life. 

December 6th @ Beverley A Baird Blog

Visit Beverley’s blog again where she shares her thoughts about Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh. 7th @ Bookworm Blog

Visit Anjanette’s blog again where she interviews author Karen Brown Tyson about her book Time to Refresh.


December 8th @ A Storybook World

Visit Deirdra’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about fearless writing. 

December 9th @ Reducing Overload

Stop by Peggy’s blog to read author Karen Brown Tyson’s post about journaling and stress management.

December 13th @ Memoir Writer’s Journey

Visit Kathleen’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about fearless writing.


December 13th @ M.C. Walker’s Blog

Visit M.C. Walker’s blog where she interviews author Karen Brown Tyson about her and her book Time to Refresh.

December 14th @ Strength 4 Spouses

Visit Wendi’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about having faith during difficult times.


December 15th @ Jessica’s Reading Room

Visit Jessica’s blog where you can read her thoughts on Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.

December 16th @ 12 Books

Visit Louise’s blog where she shares her opinion on Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.


December 18th @ Look to the Western Sky

Visit Margo’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about parenting.


December 20th @ Strength 4 Spouses

Visit Wendi’s blog again where you can read her opinion about Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.

December 20th @ The Faerie Review

Visit Lily Shadowlyn’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about journaling. 

December 21st @ The World of My Imagination

Visit Nicole’s blog where she shares her thoughts about Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh. 

December 23rd @ Look to the Western Sky

Be sure to stop by Margo’s blog again where you find out what she had to say about Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh.

December 23rd @ Coffee with Lacey

Visit Lacey’s blog where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about journaling. 

December 24th @ Coffee with Lacey

Stop by Lacey’s blog again where she reviews Karen Brown Tyson’s book Time to Refresh. 

December 27th @ The Frugalista Mom

Be sure to visit Rozelyn’s blog again where you can read Karen Brown Tyson’s blog post about change management.

Introducing Karen Brown Tyson:

Balancing Career, Home and Ministry

By Karen Brown Tyson

It’s a juggling act.

You have so many relationships to manage, so many work projects, so many ministry activities, so many commitments.

How are you supposed to prioritize? How are you supposed to get anything done?

One week, you think you have it all figured out, and the next, you’re confused again. It’s crazy! With so much going on all the time, you wonder if you will ever get a handle on everything.

I have news for you:

You are not alone. As a wife, mother, author, communications coach, blogger, and ministry leader, I know what it feels like to have a lot going on. In managing ministry, career, and family, I know exactly how to deal with everything.

Know your objective

In my role as a Christian leader, I have learned to take care of God’s business, while He takes care of my business (Matthew 6:33). When God sends ministry assignments my way, He supplies everything I need to ensure a balanced, peaceful, stress-free journey. But when I pile on unnecessary projects, that’s when life gets hectic.

To avoid being overly busy in ministry, know your objectives. Are you taking on an assignment God wants you to work on or do you have a problem letting other people pitch in to help? I always ask myself if what I am doing is what God wants or my attempt to please people. Instead of accepting everyone’s invitation to help, I look for opportunities to train other church members who are sitting on the sidelines.

Know your limits

Have you ever had to wrestle with an overstuffed suitcase? You either struggled to fit one more thing inside, or you took things out of your suitcase to lighten the load. Our schedules are just like the suitcase.

For example, when my son was in elementary school, I volunteered in the library after school; I helped the teacher make copies for the class; I supplied treats for the class; I went on every field trip. Sounds great, right? The only problem was I tried doing all of this within the same school year… while working a full-time job. I finally had to admit I had an over-packed schedule. I picked one assignment and resisted the urge to do everything.

Know when to set boundaries

When I worked in corporate America, I traveled for work every six to eight weeks for 13 years. But I set boundaries. For example, since I had flexibility around my travel dates, I usually left home on Sundays after church to avoid disrupting family time on the weekends. While I was away, I set aside time each night to help my son do his homework over the telephone. Setting boundaries allowed me to balance my work-life, ministry assignments and family commitments.

Know how when to breathe

Before I learned to unpack my schedule and set boundaries, I sometimes felt rushed and overwhelmed. Not a good feeling. So, I taught myself how to take a moment to breathe.

Every day, I take a few minutes to pray and express my gratitude to God. I reflect on what’s going well and remind myself that everything will be fine if I operate within God’s plan for my life. These few precious moments help me stay focused on what matters.

It’s important to remember that God calls every believer in the body of Christ to serve. But no one area of our lives can take up all of our time. We must take a balanced approach to manage our ministry assignments, family commitments, and career.

Karen Brown Tyson is the author of, Time to Refresh: A 21-Day Devotional to Renew Your Mind After Being Laid Off, Fired or Sidelined.

Karen works online, in person and by phone as a communication and writing coach. Karen helps her entrepreneurial clientele focus on business and nonfiction writing.

About the Author:

For the past 25 years, Karen Brown Tyson worked for Fortune 500 companies in the fast food, pharmaceutical, and telecommunication industries. Today, Karen is the founder of Constant Communicators, a lifestyle business that helps people improve their business writing skills. Time to Refresh: A 21-Day Devotional to Renew Your Mind After Being Laid Off, Fired or Sidelined was released in August 2018. Karen lives in North Carolina with her husband and son.

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WOW (Women on Writing) Blog Book Tour for Ellen Wolfson Valladares “Crossing the Line”

Hello Bookworms;

It’s time for another blog book tour with our friends at Women on Writing (WOW). Today’s guest author is Ellen Wolfson Valladares, author of “Crossing the Line”, the story of a woman returns from the grave to help solve the mystery of her own tragic death.Today I’ll be posting the reviews of several fans of the book, which is a real page turner.As always, make her feel welcome, ask all the questions you want, and I’ll be stopping through so comment all you want.

About the Author:   

Ellen Wolfson Valladares

Ellen Wolfson Valladares is an award-winning writer/author, workshop facilitator, community volunteer, and mother. A native Floridian, she grew up in St. Petersburg and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Journalism from the University of Florida. She has worked as an editor, public relations professional, and freelance writer. Her first book, a children’s novel entitled Jonathan’s Journey to Mount Miapu, received several awards, including a Mom’s Choice Gold Award and the 2009 Coalition of Visionary Resources Visionary Awards Book of the Year award. She also has a meditation CD, entitled “Healing and Manifestation with the Archangels.”
Today, Valladares continues to work as a freelance writer. She also enjoys coaching high school students working on their college essays and helping other writers realize their dreams. She has been married to her husband, Manny, for 30 years and they have two sons, Gabriel and Michael, two dogs, Flash and Chili Pepper, and a crazy cat named Zelda. They live in Weston, Fla. 


Twitter: @ValladaresEllen 

FB: @EllenValladares444 (link: 


 The Book:

Laura, who died thirty years ago, enlists the help of a tenacious high school reporter named Rebecca, who is very much alive. Rebecca, although skeptical and conflicted by her supposed encounters with a spirit, determines to learn the truth about Laura’s tragic death. As the clues unravel and their worlds collide, Rebecca finds herself at a dangerous crossroads. 

Laura, now pulled back into everything she left behind when she died – her old high school and memories of her life and death—has been in training for this exact moment. And nothing means more to her than succeeding at her assignment. 

It is her one chance to make sure that what happened to her does not happen to anyone else, and especially not to her new friend, Rebecca. 

The Reviews*:

Eric Trant

April 3, 2018

Format: Kindle Edition
Genuinely great read with a well-crafted plot, believable characters and a catchy story. Crossing the Line follows two high school girls — one dead thirty years, the victim of a murder-suicide — through parallel journeys both past and present. It tackles the drama most students face in high school as they discover their identity, and offers a fresh look at the other side of the mirror of life-and-death. In this case, it’s a surprisingly snug picture of a Potter-esque world you should discover for yourself, rather than having me explain it to you.

It also has a few twists at the end I did not see coming, and I am an author who enjoys crafting my own twisted endings. I was pretty shocked at the final revelation of what really happened the night of the murder-suicide.

Despite the serious tone of the summary, the book was a lighthearted and shockingly fast read. You won’t be able to skip paragraphs, certainly not pages, because every word has been pared down to something necessary to advance the story. You will not find fluff in this novel! It’s lean and mean, easy to pick up and nestle into, and I enjoyed my brief adventure tagging along with the girls. This has the feeling of a series novel, so hopefully we’ll see more soon from Mrs. Valladares!

– Eric


March 27, 2018

Format: Kindle Edition
Rebecca and her two good friends are trying to decide how to spend their afternoon when they stumble on an old Ouija board in a closet. When they decide to use it just for fun, they are shocked when the board tells them they are talking to a girl named Laura who was murdered in 1983 from their high school. Laura is a spirit sent on a mission to help Rebecca any way she can, even though there are very strict rules as to how she can interfere in a living person’s life. When Rebecca finds out that Laura was a real person, she decides to investigate what happened to her and uncover the truths that nobody will say.

I went into this book thinking I was reading a dark paranormal murder mystery, but really it was so much more than that. This was a story full of redemption, truth, friendship and forgiveness (with such a nice, perfect ending). Sure there were some very suspenseful things that occurred in the story, as well as the fact the whole premise was built around a murder-suicide and a ghost, but I thought the story was really sweet and feel good. All the characters were given the chance to show their heart and good side, wrongs were righted and possible terrible events were prevented. Yep, not what I thought based on the synopsis but I found this to be a quick, easy, engaging read to escape into for an afternoon.

The book started out with three girls playing with a Ouija board, when someone starts talking to them and I was instantly hooked. But then I was confused as to how the story was set up when I started the second chapter because all of a sudden I was dropped into a “special school” for the dead with a new character and rules for Crossing the Line (I loved how the title to the book had so many uses and connections throughout the story!). I had zero idea what was going on for almost the entire second chapter. But once I made it to the third chapter, I was fully immersed and interested in the plot. The book is dual narrated by Rebecca in the present and ghost Laura who is in the afterlife and has flashback to her past. Each character has a distinct voice and personality that came through the pages, and I really enjoyed trying to figure out how the two connected or what the mission was that Laura had to accomplish.

There was definitely a mystery to the book, but the relationship dynamics between both girls and their friends as well as between both girls was the main focus of the story (for me at least). I enjoyed the back and forth between the characters and the way the book unfolded, giving me hints along the way. I enjoyed this book which felt like a standalone since everything was wrapped up nicely, but there is most certainly potential for more from this world. Also, the concept of ghost detectives (or whatever you want to call the ghost helpers) was really neat. This was an interesting read full of mystery and supernatural appropriate for all ages.

I am voluntarily reviewing an advance, complimentary copy of this book.

Lisa V.

March 20, 2018

Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
What a great read! I did not want to put it down, and it kept me interested and curious right up to the very satisfying end. I guess this is considered a YA book but the story line and topics spoke to me and I am way beyond YA age. The high school students seemed very real, and brought back memories of what it was like to be involved in high school romances, dramas and emotions. The spirit world dimension is thought provoking as well as intriguing and just plain fun! Lots of imagination here. The author goes back and forth between a current high school girl and one from thirty years ago and the subject matter is rather dark. However, there are many moments of humorous observation and even, for me, a few laugh out loud moments. The characters are very well developed as individuals and, like most kids, do not fit completely into typical stereotypes. The depth of character development keeps the twists and turns of the plot going and generates compassion and interest in the reader. There was plenty to think about and enjoy.
*book reviews are courtesy of
 More Book Info:
 Crossing the Line by [Valladares, Ellen Wolfson]

Paperback:  300  pages    

Genre:  Fiction / Young Adult Novel
Publisher:    WiDO (March 2018)
ISBN-13:    978-1-937178-99-4 

Amazon Link: 


WOW (Women on Writing)Blog Book Tour for B. Lynn Goodwin’s “Never too Late”Pt.2

Hello Bookworms;

   Here’s post 2 of my participation in WOW’s blog book tour for B. Lynn Goodwin’s Never too Late: from Wannabe to Wife at 62. In this post I’ll be reviewing Mrs; Goodwin’s work and posting the remainder of the tour dates so you can show our guest author some love.

The Review:

As I read Ms. Goodwin’s book, I was impressed with her willingness to be transparent about her romantic history (especially about her ability to poke fun at following advice from women’s magazines and feminist blogs/Facebook pages). I was also impressed at Richard being a pastor and her being a virgin. Virgins at an advanced age are more common than people think and feeling that one has to hide it lest someone “prude shames” you,  is horrible. Also, no one talks very much about the dating lives of the clergy.  Richard’s Craigslist post was heartwarming as well as very humorous. It shows his ability to be personable and likeable. And their rapport as they began to email one another more and. more was touching 

Some questions that I asked myself as I continued to read were “why does she seem to be ‘coming out of her pocket’ so much?”” Is he telling the truth about his future inheritance or dangling it as a carrot?” “Are her comments about being a “nice girl” who never pierced her ears and about the “loose woman” who “puts herself out there” a form of shade? Or are they a reflection of the insecurity that gets played out after the anxiety about ‘finally being chosen’ starts to fade” 

As I continued to read though, I start to notice the emotional transformation that starts to take place as the reality of being in a committed relationship with Richard becomes a reality to her.  Especially, when she begins to elaborate on how even though she’s always been fiercely independent, she feels “softer” as she spends more time in Richard’s company. There’s also a transformative moment when she thinks she lost the engagement ring and accidentally calls it “her ring”, indicating a realization that makes the ring hers is that it is a gift to her from her intended that’s meant to symbolize his love and commitment.  

I won’t spoil the ending (like many reviewers do) by giving away the ending. I’ll just say despite some of the “red flags” that show up, Richard turns out be a pleasant surprise. A man of his word, in all actuality. Never is a really encouraging read that reminds us to pay attention to “red flags”, to also watch and pray. Everything may not be what it seems.


About B. Lynn Goodwin


B. Lynn Goodwin

B. Lynn Goodwin is the owner of Writer Advice. She’s written You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers (Tate Publishing) and Talent (Eternal Press). Talent was short-listed for a Literary Lightbox Award and won a bronze medal in the Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards and was a finalist for a Sarton Women’s Book Award.


Her manuscript, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62 was published by Koehler Press on December 20, 2017. Goodwin’s work has appeared in Voices of Caregivers, Hip Mama, Dramatics Magazine, Inspire Me Today, The Sun,, and elsewhere. She is a reviewer and teacher at Story Circle Network, and she is a manuscript coach at Writer Advice. She always has time to write guest blog posts and answer questions. She loves working one on one, trouble-shooting, and helping writers find what works.
She can be found online at:







Here are the remainding tour dates:

February 12th @ Madeline Sharples Blog
B. Lynn Goodwin will be visiting Madeline Sharples blog and discussing one of my favorite activities in her post, “Need a Venting Partner? Try a Journal.”
February 14th @ Beverly A. Baird’s Blog
Blogger Beverly A. Baird will be reading and reviewing B. Lynn Goodwin’s book Never Too Late and sharing her thoughts with us.
February 14th @ Bookends Review
Come by and check out the review of Never Too Late at Bookends Review.
February 15th @ Mommy Daze: Say What???
Ashley Bass over at Mommy Daze: Say What??? will be sharing her thoughts about Never Too Late. 

February 16th @ Words From the Heart
Rev. Linda Neas will be reading and reviewing Never Too Late and be sure to check out her insights on this amazing book.
February 17th @ Memoir Writer’s Journey
Make sure to come by the blog Memoir Writer’s Journey and read about Lynn’s insight in her post, “The Authentic Writer.” Also, blogger Kathleen Pooler will be reviewing Never Too Late as well.
February 19th @ Strength4Spouses
Visit the blog Strength4Spouses to catch Lynn’s post called, “Craigslist Dating.”
February 20th @ Bring on Lemons

Nancy Cramer, yoga lover and retired schoolteacher, will be sharing her thoughts about Never Too Late on the blog, Bring on Lemons.
February 22nd @ Food Diary of a City Girl
Make sure to catch Cecilia over at Food Diary of a City Girl and her thoughts about the book Never Too Late.
February 23rd @ Strength4Spouses
Make sure you come by the Strength4Spouses blog to catch their insights into Lynn’s book Never Too Late. 
February 24th @ Becoming Zen Again
Shell LeBlanc will be telling us about what she thought about the book Never Too Late.
Keep up with the latest stops by following WOW! Blog Tour on Twitter: @WOWBlogTour

WOW (Women on Writing) Blog Book Tour for B. Lynn Goodwin

Hello Bookworms,

Sorry it’s been so long since my last post. I have a few live events/concert reviews coming up in March and a few book/music/art events, as well as more blog book tours like today’s.

That being said, today’s guest author is B. Lynn Goodwin, the author of Never too Late: from Wannabe to Wife at 62. book is the story of Mrs. Goodwin’s own personal of finding love and marrying after 62 years of singleness. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. In today’s post, Mrs. Goodwin discusses how important it is to tell your own story and how to develop the discipline to write about it everyday.

Enjoy 😉

Guest Post

B. Lynn Goodwin

525-word blog – 100-word bio

“If you do not record your own story, your tiny bit of the history of the human race is lost. Shakespeare wrote Shakespeare’s vision. Dickinson wrote Dickinson’s. Who will tell your story if you do not?” –Pat Schneider, Author of (check YWMTDW?)

The Importance of Telling Your Story

Everyone has stories to tell. Sometimes people just don’t realize it. I once had a woman ask me, “Who would be interested in a Texas girl’s farm life?”

“Those who have not lived it,” I told her. “People in cities and suburbs. People who’ve spent their lives in schools and offices.”

Her eyes lit up as she began seeing her story in a new way.

No one can tell your story but you. Perhaps you’ve already told it out loud. Maybe you’ve shared it with family and friends. So why write it down?

There’s something about putting words on paper or a computer screen that creates a commitment to an idea. Got the words wrong? Use the delete key. Say what you really meant to say. The first draft usually involves spilling your story. Think of it as generating the clay you will mold. Each successive draft will make your writing more nuanced and you will get closer and closer to the truth.

And what will the truth do? Set you free from obsession over things you cannot control. Clear your head and your conscience. Give you insight. Broaden your perspective. Move you forward and maybe transform you.

Depending on how you tell your story and how objective and three-dimensional it is, you may help others to heal or embrace new ideas. Your story might inspire them to tell their own.

You might also help yourself to heal from whatever wounds are holding you back. It will allow you to move forward in your life. By telling your story you may begin to see your life as a journey. Our stories help us define who we are, the changes we’d like to make, and build our confidence.

If you share your story in any kind of group—therapy group, church group, or writing group to name three—it should help you connect with others. It will also help you connect with yourself on a deeper level. You’ll go from the whats—the events to the whys—the reasons behind them. Writing enables you to see your life in new ways. Writing your story can help you fix or accept the past and sometimes it helps you plan a more productive future.

Ready to start? Here are the first steps.

Write for 15 minutes a day for the next five days.

Each day after you finish, look for favorite lines. Those are places to explore further. Post the results here or on your blog or share with a group if you’d like to.

You might be surprised by how many people will identify with your story. Their encouragement will keep you moving forward until you have a rough draft.

I told my story in Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62. Can a 62-year-old who’s never been married find happiness with a two-time widower seeking his third wife on . . . Craigslist? You’ll find out how by reading the book.


B. Lynn Goodwin  B. Lynn Goodwin owns Writer Advice, Her memoir, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62 was just released by Koehler Press.

She’s written You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers and Talent, which was short-listed for a Literary Lightbox Award, won a bronze medal in the Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards and was a finalist for a Sarton Women’s Book Award.

Goodwin’s work has appeared in Voices of Caregivers, Hip Mama, Dramatics Magazine, Inspire Me Today, The Sun, Good, Purple and many other places. She is a reviewer and teacher at Story Circle Network, and she is an editor, writer and manuscript coach at Writer Advice.