Sorry it’s been so long since my last post. I have a few live events/concert reviews coming up in March and a few book/music/art events, as well as more blog book tours like today’s.
That being said, today’s guest author is B. Lynn Goodwin, the author of Never too Late: from Wannabe to Wife at 62.
This book is the story of Mrs. Goodwin’s own personal of finding love and marrying after 62 years of singleness. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. In today’s post, Mrs. Goodwin discusses how important it is to tell your own story and how to develop the discipline to write about it everyday.
B. Lynn Goodwin
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“If you do not record your own story, your tiny bit of the history of the human race is lost. Shakespeare wrote Shakespeare’s vision. Dickinson wrote Dickinson’s. Who will tell your story if you do not?” –Pat Schneider, Author of (check YWMTDW?)
The Importance of Telling Your Story
Everyone has stories to tell. Sometimes people just don’t realize it. I once had a woman ask me, “Who would be interested in a Texas girl’s farm life?”
“Those who have not lived it,” I told her. “People in cities and suburbs. People who’ve spent their lives in schools and offices.”
Her eyes lit up as she began seeing her story in a new way.
No one can tell your story but you. Perhaps you’ve already told it out loud. Maybe you’ve shared it with family and friends. So why write it down?
There’s something about putting words on paper or a computer screen that creates a commitment to an idea. Got the words wrong? Use the delete key. Say what you really meant to say. The first draft usually involves spilling your story. Think of it as generating the clay you will mold. Each successive draft will make your writing more nuanced and you will get closer and closer to the truth.
And what will the truth do? Set you free from obsession over things you cannot control. Clear your head and your conscience. Give you insight. Broaden your perspective. Move you forward and maybe transform you.
Depending on how you tell your story and how objective and three-dimensional it is, you may help others to heal or embrace new ideas. Your story might inspire them to tell their own.
You might also help yourself to heal from whatever wounds are holding you back. It will allow you to move forward in your life. By telling your story you may begin to see your life as a journey. Our stories help us define who we are, the changes we’d like to make, and build our confidence.
If you share your story in any kind of group—therapy group, church group, or writing group to name three—it should help you connect with others. It will also help you connect with yourself on a deeper level. You’ll go from the whats—the events to the whys—the reasons behind them. Writing enables you to see your life in new ways. Writing your story can help you fix or accept the past and sometimes it helps you plan a more productive future.
Ready to start? Here are the first steps.
Write for 15 minutes a day for the next five days.
Each day after you finish, look for favorite lines. Those are places to explore further. Post the results here or on your blog or share with a group if you’d like to.
You might be surprised by how many people will identify with your story. Their encouragement will keep you moving forward until you have a rough draft.
I told my story in Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62. Can a 62-year-old who’s never been married find happiness with a two-time widower seeking his third wife on . . . Craigslist? You’ll find out how by reading the book.
B. Lynn Goodwin owns Writer Advice, www.writeradvice.com. Her memoir, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62 was just released by Koehler Press.
She’s written You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers and Talent, which was short-listed for a Literary Lightbox Award, won a bronze medal in the Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards and was a finalist for a Sarton Women’s Book Award.
Goodwin’s work has appeared in Voices of Caregivers, Hip Mama, Dramatics Magazine, Inspire Me Today, The Sun, Good Housekeeping.com, Purple Clover.com and many other places. She is a reviewer and teacher at Story Circle Network, and she is an editor, writer and manuscript coach at Writer Advice.